Conflict Cooldown Timer Calculator

📖 Overview

Not every conflict should be resolved immediately.

This tool adjusts cooldown time for intensity fatigue and context switching stress.

Use it to return to the conversation when regulation and clarity are higher.

Use these default and higher-pressure example inputs to explore how sensitive this calculator is before using your real numbers.

Recommends a de-escalation window based on conflict intensity, fatigue, and overload factors.

The Formula

Cooldown Minutes = clamp(10 + 6×Intensity + 4×Sleep Debt + 2×Interruptions, 10, 180)

Intensity	Current emotional intensity level
Sleep Debt	Fatigue pressure that reduces self-regulation bandwidth
Interruptions	Context-switch load in the prior day
clamp	Constrains output to 10–180 minute practical range

💡Cooldown works best when paired with a clear reconvene time and specific next topic.

Intensity	Sleep debt	Interruptions	Cooldown
4	1h	2	~42 min
6	2h	5	~66 min
8	3h	8	~94 min
10	5h	12	Capped near 180 min

Use this tool when you need a fast decision during active planning or execution.
Use this before committing money, time, or tradeoffs that are hard to reverse.
Use this to compare options using the same assumptions across scenarios.

Results can be misleading if key inputs are missing, stale, or unrealistic.
Very small or very large values may amplify rounding effects and interpretation risk.
If assumptions change mid-decision, recalculate before acting.

💡 Higher intensity and fatigue usually require longer breaks before productive conversation.

💡 Set a return time in advance to avoid unresolved loops.

💡 Use short grounding routines during cooldown to lower reactivity.

❓ Does cooldown mean avoidance?

No, it is a regulation pause before re-engagement.

❓ Can I use it for work conflicts too?

Yes, the model works for any high-friction context.